Monthly Archives: January 2007

Columnist Intro: Mike

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Mike Lee

It is a privilege to be asked to be a guest blogger on Anti-Racist Parent. Until high school, I grew up in a predominantly non-Asian environment. I was one of those Asian-American kids who wished he was white with blond hair and blue eyes. A significant portion of my high school years was spent near or at the beach in Southern California, where most of my friends were either brown haired or blond. They always got the attention of the girls, and I was usually the nice “Asian” guy that the girls wanted as just a friend. The main Asian exposure I got back then was the Korean Church I attended, my best friend who was Korean, and my family. I look back at those days and think about how ignorant I was about the whole race identity issue. My friends back then never talked about race or racism. They were too busy trying to hook up with as many girls as they could. I just remember having low self esteem and trying so hard to fit in that I did not care so much for my Asian identity. If I ever got teased for being Asian, I would just shrug it off and smile, since I just wanted to be part of the “cool” group. Continue reading

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by Carmen Van Kerckhove Did you know that I send out a monthly email newsletter with updates on New Demographic’s many projects? You can check out the latest newsletter here. Join New Demographic’s mailing list today and receive a free … Continue reading

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Tell a funny story about your parents to win 2 great DVDs!

by Carmen Van Kerckhove Asian-American parenting blogs Kimchi Mamas and Rice Daddies have teamed up for a special contest giveaway. You can win one of five super prize packs that includes one copy of The Motel DVD and a poster … Continue reading

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Addicted to Race 57: Is Barack Obama really black?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove addicted to race

A brand-new episode (No. 57) of Addicted to Race is out! Addicted to Race is New Demographic’s weekly podcast about America’s obsession with race.Carmen is joined by guest co-host Mat Johnson in this episode. Born and raised in Philly, Mat Johnson grew up in the Germantown and Mount Airy sections of the city. As an adult, he has lived elsewhere. His first novel, Drop, was a B&N Discover Great New Writers selection. His second novel, Hunting in Harlem, won the Hurston/Wright Legacy Award. He has written for a variety of publications, including a stint as a columnist for Time Out-NY. Mat Johnson currently teaches at Bard College. And his latest novel The Great Negro Plot, is out now in stores.

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Question: Should white parents adopt children of other races?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid

Whenever I see a white couple with an Asian or Hispanic child, I can’t help wondering whether adoption — like the personal ads — is one of the last areas of American life where naked expressions of racial preference are acceptable.

mobius stripIn Why Doesn’t White Adopt Black? , an op ed that ran in the Washington Post on December 24th, David Nicholson explored the racial dynamics of transracial and intercountry adoption. Although Nicholson’s question seems simple enough, getting my head around the answer was rather like trying to follow the surface of a Möbius strip, where you always end up on the other side of where you started.

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Hair and now

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Meera Bowman Johnson

A week before my five-year-old daughter’s dance recital, her instructor, Miss Debbie, pulled me aside.

“We’re asking that all the girls wear their hair in a bun.”

I looked at Jasmin’s, golden-brown mane that was pulled neatly into a single puff on the top of her head. Each perfectly spiraled strand was infused with the genetic code of women who came before my child, myself and every other black woman in our family tree. These weren’t the girl next door’s curls. “A bun?”

The fitter-than-thou fifty-something in a black leotard, tights and pink leg warmers looked me squarely in the face. “Yes.”

“I’m not sure if it will do that.” I knew I sounded kind of strange, sitting there talking about my daughter’s hair as if it had a life of it’s own. But it did.

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Gratuitous cute kid pic!

It’s Thursday, which means it’s time for another gratuitous cute kid pic! Anti-Racist Parent Marge Booker from Rochester, NY writes: “Marge, Louise (14), John (27) and Isabel (11). Big shout out to all who subscribe to this blog and many … Continue reading

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Addicted to Race 56: Asian outmarriage, race and genetics

by Carmen Van Kerckhove A brand-new episode (No. 56) of Addicted to Race is out! Addicted to Race is New Demographic’s weekly podcast about America’s obsession with race. Carmen is joined by guest co-host Jennifer Fang in this super-sized episode. … Continue reading

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Columnist intro: Cloudscome

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome

When I was in third grade we were living in a working class suburb of Cleveland. My school was about half Black and half White, with some Asian kids too. My parents bought a house in a neighborhood about a mile away so I had to change schools yet again for fourth grade. When I told my friends that I would be going to the other elementary school in the district they said,

“Oooh, you are going to Westwood? Those kids are tough over there. They carry guns to school!”

I was scared silly. Then school started and I went to Westwood and started making new friends. When I told my new friends that I had come from the other school they said,

“Ooooh! You came from Eastwood? Those kids are tough over there. They carry guns and knives to school!”

I had to laugh, which made them think I was even tougher. It was an Aha! moment for me. People are just scared of what is different or distant from them. There are tough kids and nice kids all over and you can’t believe what they say about each other. Continue reading

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Get Anti-Racist Parent delivered to you!

by Carmen Van Kerckhove Did you know that instead of visiting this site everyday, you can be notified anytime a new post goes up? Option 1: Click below to subscribe to our RSS feed: Option 2: Get daily updates via … Continue reading

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Question: How can parents challenge western beauty standards?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove

I was recently reminded of the film short A Girl Like Me by the 18 year-old black female filmmaker, Kiri Davis. It’s a powerful seven minutes that demonstrates the extent to which people, especially women, have internalized messages about what it means to be beautiful.

This film focuses specifically on black children and teens, but I think many people of color have been raised to equate whiteness/fairness with beauty and goodness, and blackness/darkness with ugliness and evil. Growing up in Hong Kong as a Chinese/Belgian girl, I remember being constantly complimented only on my European features: “She has such light skin! Such a high nose bridge! Beautiful light brown hair!” I don’t ever remember receiving any positive feedback on my Chinese features. Continue reading

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I’m now a contributing editor for BlogHer

by Carmen Van Kerckhove I’m excited to announce that I’ve joined the BlogHer team as contributing editor for their section on Race, Ethnicity & Culture! You can read my first post here. BlogHer is the leading guide to women bloggers. … Continue reading

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Racialicious is down

by Carmen Van Kerckhove Update: Yay Racialicious is back up! Many thanks to the wonderful Philip Arthur Moore for helping me fix a very hairy situation. Those of you who read our other blog, Racialicious, about race and pop culture, … Continue reading

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Gratuitous cute kid pic!

It’s Thursday, which means it’s time for another gratuitous cute kid pic! Anti-Racist Parent Shelly writes: “I read your blog almost every day. Our family’s feelings are strong on the subject of racism. Keep up the important work you are … Continue reading

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An examination of privilege. A question of responsibility.

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Michelle Myers

I know I haven’t been able to keep up with my posts as much as I’ve liked over the last month, but I’ve been reading recent posts with great interest. In particular, Dawn Friedman’s post calling out anti-racist white parents of white children struck a particular chord, as it did with many people. I also found Carmen’s post about recent comments Angelina Jolie made in an interview interesting, and though at least one person commented that he/she didn’t get “much of a racial connotation out of [Jolie’s] statement,” I would argue that Jolie makes two points: her second statement about Shiloh being a “blob” may be about the differences between adopted children and biological children—but Shiloh’s blobbiness won’t last too long, so this isn’t even a critical point. Her first statement, however, is very revealing and implicitly has a racial context. Continue reading

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Addicted to Race: Oprah on inner-city kids and Toys R Us first baby contest

by Carmen Van Kerckhove A brand-new episode (No. 55) of Addicted to Race is out! Addicted to Race is New Demographic’s weekly podcast about America’s obsession wtih race. Carmen is joined by guest co-host Jae Ran Kim in this episode. … Continue reading

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Question: Do parents love adopted children differently?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove Angelina Jolie was recently quoted in Elle magazine as saying this: “I think I feel so much more for Mad and Z because they’re survivors, they came through so much. Shiloh seemed so privileged from the … Continue reading

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In case you missed it…

by Carmen Van Kerckhove Every Friday afternoon we sum up the week’s best posts from New Demographic’s various projects. Here we go! ANTI-RACIST PARENT a blog for parents who are committed to raising children with an anti-racist outlook Calling anti-racist … Continue reading

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Santa’s Got a Brand-New Multi-Culti Bag

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Jason Sperber, originally published at Rice Daddies

I’ve always been that friend or relative that you either love or absolutely hate around gift-giving time: I like to give books and “educational” stuff. Of course, that also means that I love to get those kind of presents too, and I hope The Pumpkin picks up that tendency from me. Here’s a list of all the multi-culti and/or educational presents my toddlergirl received this Christmas (and no, they weren’t all from me!):

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Gratuitous cute kid pic!

It’s Thursday, which means it’s time for another gratuitous cute kid pic! Anti-Racist Parent Nicole Robinson writes: “This is our daughter, Kinhly. She was born in DaNang City, VietNam. She’s been home with us for almost 6 months, and it’s … Continue reading

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