by Carmen Van Kerckhove
Here’s a real-life Choose Your Own Adventure experience.
You and your child are standing in the checkout line at the supermarket, when all of a sudden you encounter…
a) The Interrogator
“Is that your child? Is she adopted? Where did you get her from?”
b) The Superficialist
“He’s so exotic! I’ve always thought that black/Asian/biracial/Latino children were the most beautiful children of all. He’s gonna be a little heartbreaker! You’d better watch out!”
c) The Pollyanna
“I just want to say how beautiful this is. This is really the future. If we all keep adopting and mixing, very soon there will be no racism! Your child is like a bridge between cultures – it’s wonderful!”
d) The Hands-On Type
“Can I touch her hair?”
e) The Silent Starer
This person doesn’t utter a word, but simply stares at both of you.
Certainly, parents of transracially/internationally adopted and/or mixed race kids probably experience situations like these a lot. But all parents have to deal with unwelcome remarks from strangers from time to time.
How do you handle it? Have you come up with any good one-liners you can share with us?