by Carmen Van Kerckhove
Dollar and his wife are African-American but chose to adopt a white child when they first got engaged. Here’s how he explained it to AOL Black Voices:
Why did you choose to have a family before marriage and why adopt white children when there are so many black children languishing in foster care?
I asked the same question — it was God’s solution for my racist attitude (laughs). I grew up in a household where we had a problem with white folks. And when the spirit of God told me to [adopt], he said I’m going to resolve some of your past issues and at the same time, use it as an example to really break the spirit of racism; not only in your life, but in the lives of other people. I’ve had an opportunity since then to be able to teach a lot of people for how to overcome a spirit of racism, which is really a spirit of division. But then later on, we went ahead and adopted a black kid too. Now the boys that I’ve adopted are planning to adopt one kid themselves, because of what happened to them.
I have to say that I was pretty taken aback when I read this. Not because Dollar was raised to be racist towards whites (I think that anti-white sentiments are more common among people of color than we’d care to admit) but because he felt that parenting a white child would be a way for him to work out his personal race issues.
What do you think about parents who adopt transracially in order to resolve their own issues with race and racism?