by Carmen Van Kerckhove
Check out my post about this on Racialicious.
Why are the only people up in arms about this adult adoptees? Where are all the angry and offended APs? Tana’s not really AP mainstream, is she?
As an AP who has talked with other APs, my guess is that Tama is closer to the AP mainstream that you’d think (and hope). Look at the responses to the original post from APs. Since the comments have been closed on the post, it’s hard for anyone – adult adoptees, KADs, or others – to let their voices be heard.
I agree with Bob, I find Tama to be VERY mainstream attitude.
If you read the comments on the first piece by Jeff Gammage (I couldn’t even stomach to read the second) you will see the line of AP’s rushing to high-five the sentimental orientalist tone of his essay.
I just spoke with an aquantance who has two bio kids and was in the process of adopting from Vietnam. Evidently the program is making some changes and therefore the process is longer so they have opted to not proceed. The thing that go me – an AP of a child adopted from Guatemala – was that he said they were very sad to have made this decision and that they were just tying to do some “good” – I stared at him in shock! That was the reason you were adopting, and your social worker let you get away with that. From my perspective (we did not adopt to save a child, we adopted so we could be parents and have a family) their social worker didn’t properly educate them, and this may be because they were working with a religious based adoption agency.
So, I’d agree there are many AP’s who have the same view point as Tama, but there are just as many who don’t. And those of us who don’t need to speak up and be heard.
At first glance, I decided that the Relative Choices blog was a waste of my time and a very sad excuse of a representation of “Adoption and the American Family”. I am definitely one of the offended APs.
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