Ask ARP: My husband regrets marrying a non-Polish woman. What should I do?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent,

My husband was raised by his Polish parents they basically brainwashed him with ideas that he had to marry a Polish girl. His parents are very traditional.

I met my husband 7 years ago and we married in November 2001. We have a 5 year-old daughter. When we decided to get married, his parents told him that he was making a mistake. But finally they got to know me and now they like me a lot.

But they are still pressuring me and my daughter to speak Polish, go to Polish church, etc. My problem is that even though they have told my husband that they like me a lot, he still feels pain and dissatisfaction that he didn’t marry a Polish girl.

He loves me and cares about us and he said that I have all the qualities he wants for a wife. But he cannot live with the idea that I’m not Polish. I love him so much and don’t know what to do. Please, what do you say to a person like this? Can you help?

From Danucha

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