White kids in a black home

Thanks to reader Jensboys for introducing us to the blog, Ask the Blacks, in the “What Blogs Are You Cheating On Us With?” thread. There, I found a wonderfully frank post about how the blogger, as a child, came to terms with two white foster children joining her black family. Check it out:

It was about 15 years ago. Still, I remember the day we received the phone call. There were two children that needed a home. A brother and a sister. I was too young for my mother to share any details of their problems with me. I assumed their family life was bad. That always seemed to be the case. We had done foster care three times before. There were common themes. Physical abuse at home. Not getting enough to eat. Strange mental abuse. Then there are the unspeakable crimes. Back to the phone call… my parents said “yes. we’ll take them.”

After the phone call, my parents explained the kids situation. It was likely a short term thing. There was some sort of trial taking place I think. The mother was being evaluated. It seemed the boy was experiencing more difficulty than his sister. Family services decided it was best to take them both out. The girl was my age. The boy was four years older, my two brothers’ age. I was never pleased when we took in girls. Nothing personal to them of course, it’s just that I was the only girl in our family, and I liked it that way. My mother was good at getting me to put my preference aside and see that we were doing something good. It was always a family decision. It was understood that it wasn’t just our parents who did foster care. We all did. We all had to agree. This time, there was a small catch. The children were White. Read more…


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About Tami

Tami Winfrey Harris writes about race, feminism, politics and pop culture at the blog What Tami Said. Her work has also appeared online at The Guardian’s Comment is Free, Ms. Magazine blog, Newsweek, Change.org, Huffington Post and Racialicious. She is a graduate of the Iowa State University Greenlee School of Journalism. She is mom to two awesome stepkids and spends her spare time researching her family history and cultivating a righteous 'fro.
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