A Letter to My Children
written by Liza Talusan; crossposted from To Loosen the Mind
To my children:
I didn’t write to you on the day that Barack Obama became the Democratic candidate. I was afraid to believe there might be a chance.
I didn’t write to you on the night he became the President-Elect.
Fears of what could happen between then and 1.20.09 consumed my joy as words echoed from national news; and actions by local people burning Black churches dampened my hope.
But, here, now, one full day after he has become our President, hope is no longer a feeling, it’s a reality.
While our ancestors — both on my side and your dad’s side — were not brought here against their will, nor were they forced away from their families nor beaten beyond recognition, we shared a similar discrimination. We shared similar treatment of being “not American.” Your father and I, years after slavery and the civil rights movement, have been treated like foreigners, treated as if we were lazy, assumed to not speak English nor to be educated. Because of the color of our skin, people have assumed we were day laborers, thieves, or exotic figures. Because of the color of our skin, people were surprised when the only accents that came out of our mouths were distinctly that of New York City and Boston.
We were rarely considered American, despite our birth certificates, 14 years of U.S. education, college degrees. When we were dating and married, people rarely assumed that we were dating or married to one another. How could it be – an Asian and a Hispanic?
Times were different for our parents — your grandparents — and times are now different for you.
For, no longer is “American” only white. The leader of our country, his wife, his children, his family, his relatives, his in-laws — they are the America that has always been there, but that has been ignored. Othered. Foreigned.
The President you will come to study in your schooling will be the America that you know. The America that your classmates will know. The America that will be written into your textbooks — information that I had to read about on my own when my teachers only taught that white folks were inventors, black folks were slaves, red folks were savages, and yellow folks were … well.. yellow folks.
Because of our new President, your books will include a history of American people that is more than white. it will include stories of families who have crossed the seas — both willingly and unwillingly — and who are the fabric of our nation. It isn’t a new truth; it is a truth that has always been there. Now, it will be told.
The story of our nation is changing. The story you will come to know will be different from the one I learned. It will be different from the one I experienced.
I am hopeful that your story is the American story that will now be embraced. Your multicultural, multilingual, multiracial, multireligious, and multiethnic family looks like the family of our President.
I see your future in his children; I see my future in you.

Carmen Van Kerckhove is co-founder and president of
Lu wrote:
Thank you for sharing this it brought tears to my eyes and captured so many of my hopes for my own son.
I wrote a post about this the day after the election (I was also celebrating my engagement, what can I say we are political nerds) but I have yet to find the words to write my son a letter about Obama as his president and what that means for him (also a little Black boy with a white mommy and a funny name!). Thanks for inspiring me!
Posted 11 Feb 2009 at 10:31 am ¶
Claudia wrote:
Beautiful letter! I love this line: It isn’t a new truth; it is a truth that has always been there.
Posted 11 Feb 2009 at 3:56 pm ¶
Jo wrote:
Thank you for sharing. Beautiful letter.
Posted 11 Feb 2009 at 5:10 pm ¶
ann weller wrote:
What a wonderful post–thanks, and I hope you’ll keep writing.
Posted 12 Feb 2009 at 2:23 pm ¶
Shelley wrote:
Thank you, thank you for this beautifully written article. This event has been so moving that the right expression of it will have to unfold over a long time by many voices. I seem to need to hear other peoples feelings about it in order to begin to understand my own. I am so grateful that the forgotten are getting a voice, a face, that light is beginning to shine on all the beauty of who we are. Too long we have stayed in the dark and not only has that allowed injustice to persist but we have also not seen the great beauty of our Human Family, our whole family
Posted 12 Feb 2009 at 4:23 pm ¶
Blayne wrote:
Liza, this post really made me think about the America we live in today and the one I hope will be the future. Your letter tells a story that is rarely told. The is letter is a gift to your two daughters.
Posted 17 Feb 2009 at 8:40 am ¶
Open Heart wrote:
Just discovered your website. Thank you!
Posted 22 Jun 2009 at 9:48 am ¶