I don’t talk about strollers; I talk about race

written by Love Isn’t Enough contributor Liz Dwyer; originally published at Los Angelista’s Guide to the Pursuit of Happiness

kiss.mr.oMom blogger. There’s a whole lot of mom bloggers these days. But what is a mom blogger?

Is she a mom that writes tips about the best stroller and how to save money on groceries? Or is she a mom that’s thinking about how she’s the first educator of her children and how she raises her kids to solve the issues of race, class, gender equality and all the other social problems of this world?

I don’t want to read about strollers. I want to read about how do I raise my child with the social and spiritual mindset, skills and knowledge to be a productive member of society?

My boys go to summer camp and on Wednesday they took a field trip to Zuma Beach. I figured the most exciting thing to happen would be a jellyfish sighting. Unfortunately, on the bus ride home, one of the other campers, an older 13 year-old boy, decided to slap my nine year-old , Mr. O, and hurl some racial epithets his way.

I had to figure out how to respond to that, and in the long run, how I deal with that will mean more to my son than what stroller I bought him or what babyfood he ate.

That child that slapped mine and called him racist names learned that from someone else. Someone who’s an adult. Someone who is probably a parent. If that parent chose to raise their child with an attitude of racial unity instead of an attitude of racism, prejudice and being a bully, the interaction wouldn’t have happened.

To all you moms out there – and all you dads too – kudos to those of you who are talking to your kids about the equality of all people. Thank you for thinking about that and talking about that instead of the fleeting material things of this world that ultimately do not shape our children into the adults they need to be.

Thank you for writing about it. It means more than the stroller posts ever could.

Mom blogger. There’s a whole lot of mom bloggers these days. But what is a mom blogger?
Is she a mom that writes tips about the best stroller and how to save money on groceries? Or is she a mom that’s thinking about how she’s the first educator of her children and how she raises her kids to solve the issues of race, class, gender equality and all the other social problems of this world?
I don’t want to read about strollers. I want to read about how do I raise my child with the social and spiritual mindset, skills and knowledge to be a productive member of society?
My boys go to summer camp and on Wednesday they took a field trip to Zuma Beach. I figured the most exciting thing to happen would be a jellyfish sighting. Unfortunately, on the bus ride home, one of the other campers, an older 13 year-old boy, decided to slap my nine year-old , Mr. O, and hurl some racial epithets his way.
I had to figure out how to respond to that, and in the long run, how I deal with that will mean more to my son than what stroller I bought him or what babyfood he ate.
That child that slapped mine and called him racist names learned that from someone else. Someone who’s an adult. Someone who is probably a parent. If that parent chose to raise their child with an attitude of racial unity instead of an attitude of racism, prejudice and being a bully, the interaction wouldn’t have happened.
To all you moms out there – and all you dads too – kudos to those of you who are talking to your kids about the equality of all people. Thank you for thinking about that and talking about that instead of the fleeting material things of this world that ultimately do not shape our children into the adults they need to be.
Thank you for writing about it. It means more than the stroller posts ever could.


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About Tami

Tami Winfrey Harris writes about race, feminism, politics and pop culture at the blog What Tami Said. Her work has also appeared online at The Guardian’s Comment is Free, Ms. Magazine blog, Newsweek, Change.org, Huffington Post and Racialicious. She is a graduate of the Iowa State University Greenlee School of Journalism. She is mom to two awesome stepkids and spends her spare time researching her family history and cultivating a righteous 'fro.
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