Not teaching their kids how to be black in America [Il panettierre]
And then- right at that moment- right as I finished that paragraph, the discussion in the merkato hit me. And the discussion in the car, where it was mentioned that other Ethiopian women had pushed their thoughts about short hair onto other women I knew who were mothers to Ethiopian children. And the visit to the zoo, and the pictures on blogs, and walks around the world? All places where I have seen black children with either loose, big hair or hair neatly trimmed up and/or braided.
And the truth is, the kids I see who happen to have loose, big hair tend to have mothers like me. Moms who aren’t Black.
Competitive disadvantage [Boston.com]
“It’s a difficult time to be Chinese,” says Wong, a scientist who develops medical therapies. “There’s a lot of jealousy out there, because the Chinese do very well. And some people see that as a threat.”
Wong had these worries in mind last month as she waited to hear whether her older son, a good student in his senior year at a top suburban high school, would be accepted to the 11 colleges he had applied to, which she had listed neatly on a color-coded spreadsheet.
The odds, strangely, were stacked against him. After all the attention given to the stereotype that Asian-American parents put enormous pressure on their children to succeed – provoked over the winter by Amy Chua’s controversial Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother – came the indisputable reality this spring that, even if Asian-American students work hard, the doors of top schools were still being slammed shut in many faces.
Peggy Orenstein on How Playing Princess Affects Girls [BlogHer.com]
Melissa: What was — for you — the most shocking statistic you encountered in the writing of this book?
Orenstein: This isn’t a statistic, more of an observation. Deb Tolman, a professor of psychology at Hunter College who has been studying girls sexual desire for decades told me that increasingly when she asks teenage girls to describe how an experience of arousal felt, they respond by telling her how they felt they looked. She has to remind them that looking good is not a feeling. I think that’s so telling.
But statistics? I guess that nearly 50% of girls 6-9 surveyed by the market research group NPD said that they wear lipstick or lip gloss regularly, and the percentage of 8–12-year-olds wearing eye liner and/or mascara doubled between 2008-2010. I fully know why the number of 8-year-olds wearing eye makeup isn’t zero. But apparently 8–12-year-old girls are the fastest growing market—the ONLY growth market—for cosmetics. So get ready for your third grader to miss her school bus because she doesn’t have her “face” on.
Great Books for Black Boys [My Brown Baby]
But one site is working tirelessly to fill the void left by the book store giants. NorthParan.com is, for sure, the largest, most comprehensive online bookstore for black books anywhere on the internet, and it specializes in introducing us to quality books—particularly for children. This week, they’ve gathered up an impressive list of great books for black boys. Check them out and buy a few for your child’s home library—and for anyone else who appreciates good, quality books with great stories about our kids.