Quoted: Even When A Study Talks About the Harm of Spanking Many Adults Still in Denial

Renee at Womanist Musings writes about spanking in the black community:

Spankings are often posited as the solution to the high drop out rate, teen pregnancy, and of course the high incarceration rate. If this was really the solution, would these problems continue to plague our communities? Children are being spanked even as I write this and some of them are most certainly headed on a path that is not positive. Discouraging adults from getting help when they need it through shame and other forms of manipulative acts, only exacerbates the problem.

The problems in the community have everything to do with the fact that our children are reared in a White supremacist, patriarchal, homophobic state. They are set up for failure from birth and spanking them is not going to change the issue because the problem is not them, but the culture into which they have been born. Even if they manage to stay out of trouble with the law, avoid pregnancy and drugs, even a university education does not necessarily mean an escape. When you have people with doctorates applying for food stamps, clearly the imbalance is causing a system wide collapse.

What our children need is love and support, not more violence in a world that is more than capable of being violent towards them in various forms. They need to see their parents as a safe place to land. They need to feel comfort from our touch, not fear. By the very nature of being children, they are going to make mistakes, attention seek in negative ways and just generally be irritating but none of that should result in physical violence. If I cannot hit an adult who has done something wrong, then it should not be legal to slap, spank, or push a child who is so much more vulnerable. Read more…

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About Tami

Tami Winfrey Harris writes about race, feminism, politics and pop culture at the blog What Tami Said. Her work has also appeared online at The Guardian’s Comment is Free, Ms. Magazine blog, Newsweek, Change.org, Huffington Post and Racialicious. She is a graduate of the Iowa State University Greenlee School of Journalism. She is mom to two awesome stepkids and spends her spare time researching her family history and cultivating a righteous 'fro.
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