Author Archives: Cloudscome

The complexion of the pool

written by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome You’ve probably heard in the news lately about the Valley Swim club outside Philadelphia. They are a private swim club in a mostly white suburban area. The management of the club contracted with a … Continue reading

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Review of Weaving a Family: Untangling Race and Adoption

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome Weaving a Family: Untangling Race and Adoption by Barbara Katz Rothman. Beacon Press, 2005. Rothman is a professor of sociology at Baruch College, CUNY. She’s written several other books on motherhood, giving birth, race, and … Continue reading

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Nativity stories without blonde hair and blue eyes

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome When I was a child we always put out the Creche a few weeks before Christmas. Part of the anticipation of the coming day was looking forward to nestling the tiny little baby Jesus in … Continue reading

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Butterball

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome I have been trying to write a post about how we come to know white privilege. In particular I am wondering how to talk to other white people about it when they say things like … Continue reading

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“I would never give my baby away”

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome We were standing waist deep in the water of the community pool on a hot July afternoon. I was holding Buddy Boy, my 23 month old adopted black son in my arms. I wasn’t the … Continue reading

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Columnist intro: Cloudscome

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome

When I was in third grade we were living in a working class suburb of Cleveland. My school was about half Black and half White, with some Asian kids too. My parents bought a house in a neighborhood about a mile away so I had to change schools yet again for fourth grade. When I told my friends that I would be going to the other elementary school in the district they said,

“Oooh, you are going to Westwood? Those kids are tough over there. They carry guns to school!”

I was scared silly. Then school started and I went to Westwood and started making new friends. When I told my new friends that I had come from the other school they said,

“Ooooh! You came from Eastwood? Those kids are tough over there. They carry guns and knives to school!”

I had to laugh, which made them think I was even tougher. It was an Aha! moment for me. People are just scared of what is different or distant from them. There are tough kids and nice kids all over and you can’t believe what they say about each other. Continue reading

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