Author Archives: Deesha Philyaw

It don’t matter if you’re black or white…or does it?

[Editor's note: Not surprisingly, pop icon Michael Jackson has come up more than once in ARP discussions of race, self-esteem and Eurocentric beauty standards. How does one explain to children a young, black man seeming to morph into a white woman? … Continue reading

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“Our goal is to raise nerds”

written by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Deesha Philyaw So this morning, the mailman made my 5.5-year-old daughter Peyton’s day with the delivery of her U.S. state quarters collector’s folder.  Peyton joins her 10.5-year-old sister, Taylor, in this endeavor, and she hasn’t … Continue reading

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Who’s afraid of the big bad non-representative parent?

written by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Deesha Philyaw’ “The bad parents are running amok! They’re everywhere you turn, talking about postpartum depression, confessing that their kids are addicted to SpongeBob, throwing their breast pumps in the garbage!” “…there is a loud … Continue reading

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Joni and us

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Deesha Philyaw My kids have sent me over the moon with joy. Is it because they are doing well in school? They are, but that’s not why I’m thrilled. Is it because their rooms are tidy? … Continue reading

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Eleven o’clock on Sunday Morning

written by Deesha Philyaw, Anti-Racist Parent columnist Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., in one of his early sermons as an associate pastor at his father’s church, Ebenezer Baptist Church in Atlanta, Georgia, said the following: “I am [ashamed] and appalled … Continue reading

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What a Picture Is Worth

by Deesha Philyaw, anti-Racist Parent columnist The other morning, just after breakfast, my almost-5-year-old daughter Peyton excused herself from the table and began to peruse the bookshelves in our family room. Never one to settle for “kid” foods (at 3, … Continue reading

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When Anti-Racist Parenting Goes Wrong…Or at the Very Least, Neurotic

by ARP columnist Deesha Philyaw One of my least proud mama-moments occurred a few years ago when my oldest daughter, Taylor, was about to enter kindergarten.  That summer, her new school invited all the incoming kindergarteners to meet their new teachers … Continue reading

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Spare the rod, get your Black Card taken

by ARP columnist Deesha Philyaw A few years ago, I wrote the following column at LiteraryMama.  I did so in hopes of sparking constructive dialogue.  Instead, crickets chirped, mostly.  Well, ARP readers aren’t known to hold their tongues, so I’m … Continue reading

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The Princess Problem: “There’s more than one way of being pretty.”

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Deesha Philyaw As the mother of two girls who do not live under rocks, I have not been able to escape the whole princess thing. A few years back, when my oldest was in kindergarten and … Continue reading

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The Children Are Watching

Below is a double entry of sorts. The first is a slightly revised recent blog entry. The latter is an unpublished piece that another parenting website found “too partisan” to publish back around the time of the 2004 election. It’s … Continue reading

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Sunny Days…and Some Stupid and Sarcastic Ones Too

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Deesha Philyaw Like a lot of Gen-Xers, I lived and breathed Sesame Street back in the day. By first grade, I’d been identified by my school as “a smart kid,” and adult friends of the family … Continue reading

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Black History Month, Revisited

I wrote this piece a few years ago when I was a monthly columnist for a parenting-related site sponsored by a child advocacy organization. Disclaimer: I really enjoyed writing for that site, and my editor there was the best. However, … Continue reading

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Funny…I Don’t Feel Like an Adoptive Mother

by columnist Deesha Philyaw The question Jan, a local poet, asked me should not have caught me off guard, but it did. She wanted to know if I would be reading later that evening at an open mic she was … Continue reading

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Columnist Intro: Deesha

by columnist Deesha Philyaw I like to talk about race. I joke that, as a black woman, particularly as a daughter of the American South, I was born to do it. I was born and raised in Florida by my … Continue reading

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