Author Archives: Jae Ran Kim

Dating: The Next Generation

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim A few months ago my family reached a new milestone in our lives as a multi-racial family. My 14 year-old daughter has her first “boyfriend.” I have to admit that I have long … Continue reading

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It’s not too late to take action, even after 40 years

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey People all over the world are talking about the return of an adopted Korean child by a Dutch diplomat and his wife. I’ve written about disruptions and dissolutions … Continue reading

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Drive-by Culture

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey People ask me all the time for a “top 10″ list of suggestions or rules that are must-do’s regarding transracial adoption, and I’ll admit that I have a … Continue reading

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Inviting me to the party

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey This past Friday was our school’s annual Fall Picnic. As you may recall, last spring I wrote about being snubbed from a Mom’s Night Out event in which … Continue reading

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When parents disrupt or dissolve an adoption

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey Okay, I’m going to start off being blunt. When a person adopts a child and then disrupts or dissolves that adoption, they are re-traumatizing the child and they … Continue reading

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In eight days

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey . . . I will be on a plane to South Korea. I am embarking on my third trip to Korea since 2000 (also the third trip to … Continue reading

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Adoption Poster Child™

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey They sat on the cream and floral plushy sofa and matching loveseat. Others pulled out the dining room chairs into the room, making a circle with chairs and … Continue reading

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Mom’s night out

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey My family lives in a neighborhood in the city that is very diverse; many of our neighbors are Hispanic Latino, Somali and African American. Our kids go to … Continue reading

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A social worker’s perspective of Disney characters

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey When my daughter was five, one of her favorite movies was Disney’s version of “Annie.” She would kneel on the kitchen floor, dishtowel in hand, and sing, “It’s … Continue reading

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My response to the Rachel’s Tavern commenter

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey Earlier this week, Rachel from Rachel’s Tavern shared with me a comment left on her blog in response to a post about the U.S.’s decision to end working … Continue reading

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Why white adoptive parents must actively engage in anti-racist work

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey It’s a precarious position for anyone who tries to be an agent of change within any institution. It can be difficult to balance the needs between individual people … Continue reading

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The great American melting pot?

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim Okay, I am totally showing my age here, but when I was a kid in the midwest in the 1970′s and 80′s, my siblings and I spent every Saturday morning watching cartoons and … Continue reading

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Little pitchers have big ears

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey I began to reply to Susanna’s question on Anti-Racist Parent, but realized that my response was too long for the comment box, so I thought I would share … Continue reading

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Reflection

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey A couple weeks ago, I presented two trainings for MN-ASAP (Minnesota Adoption Support and Preservation) in southern Minnesota, and on the way home, I happened upon the song … Continue reading

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Jealousy

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim Everytime I hear about an adoptee who has reunited with their families, the green-eyed monster makes a visit. I have witnessed three reunions and have had many more friends reunite with their bio … Continue reading

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Hope vs. Optimism

by ARP Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Kimchi Mamas I was pregnant with my daughter in April of 1992 when the police officers in the Rodney King beating were acquitted and the riots erupted in Los Angeles. I … Continue reading

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Columnist Intro: Jae Ran

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim When I think about what it means to me personally to be invited to be a guest blogger on Anti-Racist Parent, it is wholly in contrast to how I was raised in the … Continue reading

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