Author Archives: Margie Perscheid

Ebony and Ivory = Perfect Harmony in the Dorm Room?

[Editor's note: When I read the recent NYT article on interracial college roomates, I knew it was an issue that Anti-Racist Parent should tackle. Like many who have commented on the piece, I found it facile, simplistic. As someone who … Continue reading

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When post-racialism and education collide

by Anti-Racist Parent contributor Margie Perscheid I read a disturbing post at Angry Asian Man this morning; the original article is here: Student rejects ‘demeaning’ test, is suspended. Please go read. At the center of the controversy is Lori Phanachone, … Continue reading

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Moments of clarity

written by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid It’s easy to become jaded by the political process when you live in Washington, DC. Although I’ve lived here for over 40 years, apart from cultural events like the Smithsonian Folklife Festival, the … Continue reading

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I protest. Wait – can I do that?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid By now, pretty much everyone knows the story of the Spanish and Argentine teams who thought it might be cute to do a little yellow face for the press. If you haven’t, you can … Continue reading

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The ultimate cultural appropriation

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom I have a little pendant that I’ve worn for many years. It’s tiny thing, a little gold filigree oval with the word ???, omoni, which is Korean for mother, … Continue reading

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Taking Control

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom My oldest child went away to college in the fall. It’s a huge milestone, but he’s breezing through it with barely an emotional ripple. Not so his mom. I’m … Continue reading

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Leave

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom I’m so very tired of people who think the right response to anyone they disagree with is leave. Someone said that to me in an online discussion this week, … Continue reading

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Helping teachers understand adoption

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom My approach was to keep it simple – both because as a former teacher I knew that my children’s teachers would have limited time to spend reading the packet, … Continue reading

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Why do we expect adoptees to be grateful?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom The concept that my children should be grateful to my husband and me for having adopted them has always been offensive to me. And if it’s offensive to me, … Continue reading

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Koreans are not to blame

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom I’m sure I’m not the only adoptive parent of Asian children who is struggling to help their kids understand the Virginia Tech tragedy. Tech draws many students from the … Continue reading

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Question: Should white parents adopt children of other races?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid

Whenever I see a white couple with an Asian or Hispanic child, I can’t help wondering whether adoption — like the personal ads — is one of the last areas of American life where naked expressions of racial preference are acceptable.

mobius stripIn Why Doesn’t White Adopt Black? , an op ed that ran in the Washington Post on December 24th, David Nicholson explored the racial dynamics of transracial and intercountry adoption. Although Nicholson’s question seems simple enough, getting my head around the answer was rather like trying to follow the surface of a Möbius strip, where you always end up on the other side of where you started.

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Columnist intro: Margie

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid My first reaction, upon receiving an invitation to contribute to Anti-Racist Parent, was to ask who would want to listen to a middle-aged white woman talk about race. What could I possibly add to … Continue reading

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