Anita Tedaldi, Guilt and White Privilege

written by Racialicious deputy editor Thea Lim; originally published at Racialicious
[Editor's note: Though we briefly discussed Anita Tedaldi in this space last week, I wanted to share Thea's post about the issue. We discussed the Racialicious post on this week's Addicted to Race show, which I am certain Carmen will post later today.]
I get a [...]

Thoughts on EJ Graff…

written by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Julie Corby; crossposted at the Eyes of My Eyes Are Opened
I applaud E.J. Graff and The Schuster Institute for opening people’s eyes to the corruption that exists in international adoption. I think that it is important that people start talking about this, and start implementing changes to ensure that all [...]

Madonna and adoption: what’s race got to do with it?

[Editor's note: According to the New York Times: "A judge has rejected Madonna's request to adopt a second child from Malawi because of a requirement that prospective parents live in the southern African nation for at least 18 months, another judge and a lawyer said Friday."]
by Carmen Van Kerckhove, originally published at CNN’s Anderson Cooper [...]

ARP Links

The Wall Street Journal reports that domestic adoption is gaining prominence in China:
…While China is known overseas as a place many go to adopt babies, until recently adoption was uncommon among Chinese families themselves. That’s partly because of limited financial resources, and partly because the country’s Confucian culture emphasizes family and filial piety.
“In China, society [...]

NYT: Korea works to end stigma of adoption

From The New York Times:
SEOUL, South Korea — Daunted by the stigma surrounding adoption here, Cho Joong-bae and Kim In-soon delayed expanding their family for years. When they finally did six years ago, Mr. Cho chose to tell his elderly parents that the child was the result of an affair, rather than admit she was [...]

Race preference in adoption

by ARP columnist Natasha Sky
This American Life aired a piece on NPR–on January 18, 2008–about a Nurse/Actress who worked in toy store FAO Schwartz’s Newborn Nursery (hat tip to Mixed Race America and Land of the Not-So-Calm). Here is the toy store’s promotional quote:

What You Will Experience When You Visit a Newborn Nursery:
As you enter [...]

Ask ARP: Is my wife making too much of our adopted child’s race?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent,
My wife and I are adopting a little infant girl from Ethiopia. My wife has read 35 books, spends hours in adoption related chat rooms, has taken courses on caring for black kids’ hair and skin etc. Suffice it to say she is really committed.
Me on the other hand…….have convinced myself that racism doesn’t [...]

ARP Tuesday Links

TIME magazine wonders “Should Race be a Factor in Adoption?”
Should adoption agencies discriminate by race, or even by a person’s racial sensitivity? According to current U.S. law, no. Since 1996, it has been illegal to consider race when determining whether families are suitable to raise adopted children — the law was intended to increase adoptions [...]

Half-price adoptions: Should we tell our kids?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Dawn Friedman
When we decided to pursue a domestic adoption nearly five years ago, my husband and I – both of us white – decided that we were open to adopting transracially. We were naïve about this – we really didn’t understand the challenges for children adopted transracially – but when we [...]

Why Oh Why Are These T-Shirts Still Available?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Paula, originally published at Heart, Mind and Seoul
On numerous occasions in the past, I’ve been fairly unsuccessful in trying to convey how many times I’ve felt that the messages and attitudes perpetuated by our society about adoption often leads me to feel that I am reduced down to nothing more than [...]

Ain’t No Shame in Saying That I’m Asian

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Paula
Perhaps it’s just me – but as a parent of a biracial daughter and an Asian son – it’s far from my dream as their mother to have either of them enter into their adulthood thinking, believing, announcing and celebrating that they are white (or have our daughter claiming a white-only [...]

Review of Weaving a Family: Untangling Race and Adoption

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome
Weaving a Family: Untangling Race and Adoption by Barbara Katz Rothman. Beacon Press, 2005.
Rothman is a professor of sociology at Baruch College, CUNY. She’s written several other books on motherhood, giving birth, race, and gender. In Weaving a Family Rothman talks about her own experience as a white mother of three [...]

Columnist Intro: Lisa Marie

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Lisa Marie
I come to Anti Racist Parent as a black woman, as a transracial adoptee and as a woman who recognizes parts of myself as a mother to my friends, my family, my youth, and my students – while at the same time, I have no biological children.
I was born [...]

Nativity stories without blonde hair and blue eyes

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Cloudscome
When I was a child we always put out the Creche a few weeks before Christmas. Part of the anticipation of the coming day was looking forward to nestling the tiny little baby Jesus in his spot in the manger. We read the stories of Elizabeth and Mary hearing news of [...]

It’s not too late to take action, even after 40 years

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey
People all over the world are talking about the return of an adopted Korean child by a Dutch diplomat and his wife. I’ve written about disruptions and dissolutions before, namely here and here. I think one of the aspects of this case that is [...]

Religion and culture in an interfaith, transracial family

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Dawn Friedman
We are a transracial family. My husband, my son and myself are white. Our daughter is African-American and joined our family through an open, domestic adoption three years ago. Both my kids are being raised in my Jewish faith in that their formal religious education is happening at our synagogue. [...]

Funny…I Don’t Feel Like an Adoptive Mother

by columnist Deesha Philyaw
The question Jan, a local poet, asked me should not have caught me off guard, but it did. She wanted to know if I would be reading later that evening at an open mic she was hosting as part of a 4-day conference on adoption and culture being held here at [...]

Columnist intro: Brian

Let me live in my house by the side of the road
Where the race of men go by-
They are good, they are bad, they are weak, they are strong,
Wise, foolish- so am I.
Then why should I sit in the scorner’s seat
Or hurl the cynic’s ban?-
Let me live in my house by the side of [...]

Leave

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom
I’m so very tired of people who think the right response to anyone they disagree with is leave.
Someone said that to me in an online discussion this week, as a way of voicing their disagreement with my political point of view. The fact [...]

Drive-by Culture

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey
People ask me all the time for a “top 10″ list of suggestions or rules that are must-do’s regarding transracial adoption, and I’ll admit that I have a really hard time doing this.
Mostly, it’s because there is no easy prescription or formula for getting [...]