Tag Archives: adoption

Funny…I Don’t Feel Like an Adoptive Mother

by columnist Deesha Philyaw The question Jan, a local poet, asked me should not have caught me off guard, but it did. She wanted to know if I would be reading later that evening at an open mic she was … Continue reading

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Columnist intro: Brian

Let me live in my house by the side of the road Where the race of men go by- They are good, they are bad, they are weak, they are strong, Wise, foolish- so am I. Then why should I … Continue reading

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Leave

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom I’m so very tired of people who think the right response to anyone they disagree with is leave. Someone said that to me in an online discussion this week, … Continue reading

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Drive-by Culture

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey People ask me all the time for a “top 10″ list of suggestions or rules that are must-do’s regarding transracial adoption, and I’ll admit that I have a … Continue reading

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Is adoption the antithesis to oppression?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove If you haven’t already, do check out this somewhat controversial article in the latest issue of Mother Jones magazine about international adoption: Did I Steal My Daughter? The Tribulations of Global Adoption (hat tip to Jae … Continue reading

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Who Belongs?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Natasha Sky My son was writing in his workbook the other day. We’re homeschooling in the eclectic-semi-unschooling-style; the workbooks have been around for over a year–my kids think they’re fun. The books are actually a great … Continue reading

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11 tips for white parents with adopted children of color

by Carmen Van Kerckhove I just spotted this excellent list of tips for white parents with adopted children of color over on Harlow’s Monkey. It’s written by Sun Yung Shin in the Summer 2007 issue of MN ASAP Family Voices … Continue reading

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When parents disrupt or dissolve an adoption

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey Okay, I’m going to start off being blunt. When a person adopts a child and then disrupts or dissolves that adoption, they are re-traumatizing the child and they … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: What resources on adoption can I give to my daughter’s pre-school teacher?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I’m looking for some resources on talking about race, adoption, and transracial adoption that I can pass on to my daughter’s preschool teacher. I’ve googled a variety of things but haven’t had much luck. Anything anyone can … Continue reading

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Helping teachers understand adoption

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom My approach was to keep it simple – both because as a former teacher I knew that my children’s teachers would have limited time to spend reading the packet, … Continue reading

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Making me a liar: responding to intrusive questions about my children

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Natasha Sky I hear one question from strangers more often than any other: “Are they all yours?” The second most common question goes something like this, “Are some of your children adopted?” Long ago I stopped … Continue reading

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Is it ok for parents to adopt transracially to solve their racial hangups?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove Wendi Muse recently pointed me to a blog post at Upside-Down Adoption about televangelist Rev. Creflo Dollar. Dollar and his wife are African-American but chose to adopt a white child when they first got engaged. Here’s … Continue reading

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Columnist intro: Paula

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Paula It is an honor to participate in the dialogue here at Anti-Racist Parent as a columnist. As a Korean adoptee of white parents who is married to a white man with two children – including … Continue reading

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10 Do’s and Don’ts for transracially adoptive parents

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Michelle Myers Like everyone else who grew up in the 70′s and 80′s, I loved watching “Different Strokes.” Of course, I was enamored with the show mainly because of Gary Coleman and waited with anticipation every … Continue reading

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Response to a Transracially Adopting Mother

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Natasha Sky I recently met someone friends have been trying to hook me up with for weeks; her family is planning to adopt. She had heard about me, and I must admit I was excited to … Continue reading

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In eight days

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey . . . I will be on a plane to South Korea. I am embarking on my third trip to Korea since 2000 (also the third trip to … Continue reading

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A Tale of Two Churches

by guest contributor Nobody, originally published at Scraps by Nobody There once was a little white Baptist church, set on a plot of farmland that the pastor liked to call “sacred acre”. It was a small congregation, firmly mired in … Continue reading

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The Subtle Choice of Words and Their Not So Subtle Messages

by guest contributor Paula O’Loughlin, originally published at Heart, Mind and Seoul A celebrity prospective adoptive parent was recently quoted as saying, “Of course I want to have kids. I want to have my own kids, but also adopt.” Several … Continue reading

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Columnist Intro: Natasha

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Natasha Sky I am excited to be joining the community of columnists at Anti-Racist Parent. My experience with multiracial families and interracial friendships started the week I was born. My mother’s best friend adopted a multiracial … Continue reading

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Adoption Poster Child™

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey They sat on the cream and floral plushy sofa and matching loveseat. Others pulled out the dining room chairs into the room, making a circle with chairs and … Continue reading

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