Tag Archives: ask ARP

Ask LIE: Where is the line between appreciation and appropriation?

Dear Love Isn’t Enough, My husband and I are white. We have a bio son and daughter and a son who was born in Ethiopia. Since I was a girl, I have been drawn to learning about Africa. I watched … Continue reading

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LIE reader needs your help

I would love some advice on how to address my daughter’s preschool’s plans for an MLK Jr. Day celebration. This is a new preschool for us, so I don’t have a connection with any of the staff yet. My daughter’s … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How do I (Should I?) confront my aunt about a racist e-mail?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, A little background… I’m white (actually mixed-race, but look 100% white) and I am adopted. (My adopted mom knows my ethnic heritage.) I married a woman that’s Puerto Rican and black, and we have a mixed-race daughter. … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: Does giving to World Vision-type organizations square with anti-racist ideals?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent: I was wondering how you feel about programs like World Vision where you can sponsor children in other countries to help with their basic needs. Obviously providing resources to children in need is a good thing, but … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How do I explain why Indian mascots are offensive?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent: I recently read an article in my local newspaper, “Indian spirit carries Brimfield girls to state,” about a local basketball team. I could not believe that a local school would still be using Native Americans as mascots—something … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How do I respond to a sister who demeans my biracial daughter?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I have a problem.  I have a beautiful 22-month-old daughter who is biracial.  Since she has been born, my sister has gradually stopped spending time with me and my daughter and I have recently found out that … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How do I talk to my child’s teacher about concerns over a recent field trip?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent: My biracial son’s 1st grade class recently went on a field trip to a ‘farm museum’ (a.k.a. former plantation) in our Southern state.  While there, the kids were shown a video of slaves bring the master food … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How can I protect my children from hate?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, Thank you so much for your blog.  It is helping me hold it together at this time when tempers are high and hidden racism in my community is raising it’s ugly head.  We live in a suburban community  in Ohio.  We … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How do I handle troubled and racist relatives?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I have a nephew who is a white supremacist.  He and my other nephew are both “troubled” (to put it lightly), and tend to cause major issues at family events.  Tonight during a light political discussion – … Continue reading

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Dear ARP: Should I step in to stop racial “joking” among kids?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent: My middle school son recently told me that his good friend was making Jewish jokes (my son is Jewish, the other boy is bi-racial African-American and Latino). It was bothering my son so we brainstormed a conversation he could have … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: Is “The Story of Little Babaji” racist?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I am stumped and was wondering if I could get your opinions or suggestions – hell, I’d love to see this discussed on the site. My partner loves the book The Story of Little Babaji and I … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: Where can I find a Bible with racially realistic portrayals?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent: Do you have suggestions for children’s Bibles (or Christian-themed books) that have realistic and non-racist portrayals of Biblical characters and children represented in them? Any thoughts on the Jesus Storybook Bible by Sally Lloyd-Jones? Any help would … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: Is there a measureable benefit to raising my child in a diverse environment?

Sorry for the late post today, guys. I’ve been at a conference and am just getting access to a computer. Thanks for your patience. Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I’m a parent of a young transracially adopted (Asian) child, and we have … Continue reading

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Dear ARP: How do I talk to my child’s teacher about racism in the classroom?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I am Spanish, living in the UK with my white British husband and our two children, a birth son aged 7 and a daughter adopted from China who is now 4. My question has to do with … Continue reading

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Dear ARP: Are my church’s actions influenced by racial prejudice?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent: I am an adoptive mom to two beautiful Haitian boys.  One of them is still in Haiti, waiting to come home.  We have had our other son, Sam, with us for about 4 months.  I want to … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How should we refer to the race of our new baby?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent: I’m a Scandinavian woman married to an East African man and now we’re expecting our little baby girl within a month from now or so… My question is the following: Admittedly, I haven’t read much on your Web … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: Where can I find anti-racist history curricula?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent: Over the past seven or eight years, I’ve been on a journey to relearn history – you know, leaving behind the history I was taught and trying to grasp the real truth of the events that have shaped our … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How can white people join the anti-racist discussion?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I need some help.  I am a white mother of white children.  But having been raised in a community that was predominantly minority and largely economically disadvantaged, I’ve always been concerned about race issues in our country.  … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How do you combat an ex-spouse’s racism?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I have a beautiful four-year-old son (five this September) Ian who is getting strong racist messages from his mother, who I separated from in January 2006. Ian’s mother Tina grew up in the Philippines, where dark skin tends to be looked … Continue reading

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