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Over at Hormone Colored Days, Kim Moldofsky writes about the lack of diversity at mommy blogger events:
Last week I sent off an article that will appear in MediaPost’s Engage: Moms column in a few weeks. The title (for now, anyway) is “Inviting Diversity to Your Brand-Sponsored Blogger Retreat” and based on the group photo I [...]

On organic vs. proactive diversity

written by Anti-Racist Parent editor Tami Winfrey Harris
Diversity is important to personal and community development. Diversity is not organic.
 
Kathleen Parker’s article two week’s ago in the Washington Post helped me to crystalize my thoughts on diversity, its importance and how community’s can achieve successful and beneficial diversity. You may remember that Parker wasn’t sold on new radio [...]

Is Privilege Offensive?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Liza Talusan
I experience privilege. I am college educated. I have a steady, salaried job. I am heterosexual. I have a house and a mortgage. Two cars. Two kids. One dog. I am able bodied. My husband and I are married. Both of my parents are still alive and well. I [...]

When saying nothing is the best you can do

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Tami Winfrey Harris
When my husband and I began making plans for my 13-year-old stepson to move from Chicago to live with us in our new home in central Indiana, I was ambivalent. I promise I am not a wicked stepmother. I love J. He’s a caring kid with a fun personality [...]

Black History Month, Revisited

I wrote this piece a few years ago when I was a monthly columnist for a parenting-related site sponsored by a child advocacy organization. Disclaimer: I really enjoyed writing for that site, and my editor there was the best. However, this particular column was nixed because what they were looking for was more [...]

Ask ARP: How to be a strong ally to kids and parents of color at school?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent,
My child just started kindergarten at a publicly funded, open enrollment, community operated charter school. We live in a very racially diverse city, and the school is located in a neighborhood that is historically African American, though it is also, like much of the city, gentrifying. The population of this school is [...]

Drive-by Culture

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey
People ask me all the time for a “top 10″ list of suggestions or rules that are must-do’s regarding transracial adoption, and I’ll admit that I have a really hard time doing this.
Mostly, it’s because there is no easy prescription or formula for getting [...]

Having a multicultural doll ghetto is not enough

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Dawn Friedman
Recently I wrote on my blog about trying to find an African American Polly Pocket for my 3-year old daughter. My efforts were only slightly successful – I did find a brown-skinned Polly, kind of. But she could more easily stand in for a white girl with an olive complexion. [...]

Inviting me to the party

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey
This past Friday was our school’s annual Fall Picnic. As you may recall, last spring I wrote about being snubbed from a Mom’s Night Out event in which several moms from my kid’s school organized an evening of socializing.
As I’ve alluded to before, out [...]

Is it ok for parents to adopt transracially to solve their racial hangups?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove
Wendi Muse recently pointed me to a blog post at Upside-Down Adoption about televangelist Rev. Creflo Dollar.
Dollar and his wife are African-American but chose to adopt a white child when they first got engaged. Here’s how he explained it to AOL Black Voices:
Why did you choose to have a family before marriage [...]

The parenting blogosphere’s lack of diversity

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Jason Sperber
Last week, the parentblogosphere (or at least the neighborhood I frequent) was buzzing, post-BlogHer, with HKMIC (that’s Head Kimchi Mama In Charge) CityMama/Stefania Pomponi Butler’s smackdown on clueless PR flacks trying to get mombloggers to flog their stuff for free to their highly coveted demographic. Seems that that demographic [...]

Columnist intro: Paula

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Paula
It is an honor to participate in the dialogue here at Anti-Racist Parent as a columnist. As a Korean adoptee of white parents who is married to a white man with two children – including a daughter who was born unto us and a son who, like me, is adopted from [...]

Ask ARP: How to incorporate diversity when living in a mostly white area?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent,
Given the recent post about living in a nearly-all white school district, and the last post about the mom who’s moving from NY to Houston, could you put out a call for ideas on how to naturally mix-it-up culturally when you’re living somewhere that’s mostly white?
And by “mostly white”, I mean I’ve gone [...]

Still Maplewood: Wrong side of the tracks

by Helena Holgersson-Shorter, originally published in The Motherhood Magazine
[Note from Carmen: Maplewood, NJ is known in the NYC area as a very diverse community. However, I felt that the themes discussed in this article are applicable to other communities as well.]
Diversity. Community. These are the definitive Maplewood buzzwords, the ones our already-settled-in-the-suburbs neighbors used [...]

Ask ARP: How tolerant is the south of multiracial families?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent,
I appreciate the content on your blog. I have read some very interesting and touching things here.
My sister is considering moving to the south. She is a single mother of two mixed-race boys – 1/2 African American – 1/2 Caucasian.
I am starting to worry that they boys may be met with more resistance [...]

Do “white schools” make white kids racist?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Tereza Topferova
Last month, ABC News reported on a study of elementary and high school students, aimed at finding out whether children use race to socially exclude other children from their groups.
The study of nearly 700 fourth, seventh, and 10th graders of different ethnic and racial backgrounds living in the mid-Atlantic region [...]

Antiracist Black Family Seeks Antiracist White Families for Friendship, Camaraderie and Fun (race unimportant)

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Meera Bowman Johnson
Recently, for the first time in what felt like forever, my husband and I left a child’s birthday party feeling like we’d enjoyed it as much as our kids. According to him, it was the great conversation, but I know that was only just the half. Exiting down the [...]

Finding a kindergarten for a multiracial family

by guest contributor Natasha Sky
My oldest two children are eligible to attend public kindergarten next fall. They have been home full-time since birth, with their dad or me, pretty much living the play-centered life. I began making phone calls to the school in January–we knew this was going to be a complicated process. Our town [...]

Oh, the wonderful world of toddler picture books and more . . .

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Tereza Topferova
Part I: My Many Colored Days
I took my son to a thrift store last month and bought a few toys, including a pink stroller and a black doll, and books. When we got home, I read one of them, My Many Colored Days by Dr. Seuss, with my son. [...]

From Trinidad to Houston

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist, Karen Walrond
Sorry for the long absence; the truth is, my family and I have recently moved from my homeland of Trinidad & Tobago to Houston, Texas. I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t had a few trepidations about it.
I come by my apprehensions honestly. Although I’m from Trinidad, I’d lived [...]