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Tag Archives: international adoption
Columnist intro: Paula
by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Paula It is an honor to participate in the dialogue here at Anti-Racist Parent as a columnist. As a Korean adoptee of white parents who is married to a white man with two children – including … Continue reading
10 Do’s and Don’ts for transracially adoptive parents
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Michelle Myers Like everyone else who grew up in the 70′s and 80′s, I loved watching “Different Strokes.” Of course, I was enamored with the show mainly because of Gary Coleman and waited with anticipation every … Continue reading
Response to a Transracially Adopting Mother
by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Natasha Sky I recently met someone friends have been trying to hook me up with for weeks; her family is planning to adopt. She had heard about me, and I must admit I was excited to … Continue reading
In eight days
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey . . . I will be on a plane to South Korea. I am embarking on my third trip to Korea since 2000 (also the third trip to … Continue reading
The Subtle Choice of Words and Their Not So Subtle Messages
by guest contributor Paula O’Loughlin, originally published at Heart, Mind and Seoul A celebrity prospective adoptive parent was recently quoted as saying, “Of course I want to have kids. I want to have my own kids, but also adopt.” Several … Continue reading
Adoption Poster Child™
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey They sat on the cream and floral plushy sofa and matching loveseat. Others pulled out the dining room chairs into the room, making a circle with chairs and … Continue reading
Why do we expect adoptees to be grateful?
by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom The concept that my children should be grateful to my husband and me for having adopted them has always been offensive to me. And if it’s offensive to me, … Continue reading
Miss M goes to China
by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Amber Before we traveled to China to adopt our younger daughter, I expected that a white mom carrying an obviously Asian baby would attract a lot of attention from the locals. In the city where we … Continue reading
ColorsNW video on transracial adoption
by Carmen Van Kerckhove ColorsNW magazine, based out of Seattle, has recently started a video podcast. Here is a video they made on the subject of transracial adoption (hat tip to Jae Ran). It features, among other folks, Sarah Kim … Continue reading
My response to the Rachel’s Tavern commenter
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey Earlier this week, Rachel from Rachel’s Tavern shared with me a comment left on her blog in response to a post about the U.S.’s decision to end working … Continue reading
Should adoptive parents change their children’s names?
by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Dawn Friedman I was stuck on what to write this week but Carmen shared a list of some of the keywords people use to find their way here and there was one that stuck out to … Continue reading
Recommended reading
by Anti-Racist Parent special correspondent Colin Bowden The blindfold of “colorblind” Pt.1 – Ethnically Incorrect Daughter “As I’ve mentioned many times before, my family practiced a kind of colorblindness when it came to me. I guess they figured if they … Continue reading
Recommended reading
by Anti-Racist Parent special correspondent Colin Bowden Biting my tongue: Weighing pros and cons of reacting to insensitivity – Kimchi Mamas When is it right to act against insensitive and offensive comments? When is it wrong? Mama Nabi confronts this … Continue reading
An examination of privilege. A question of responsibility.
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Michelle Myers
I know I haven’t been able to keep up with my posts as much as I’ve liked over the last month, but I’ve been reading recent posts with great interest. In particular, Dawn Friedman’s post calling out anti-racist white parents of white children struck a particular chord, as it did with many people. I also found Carmen’s post about recent comments Angelina Jolie made in an interview interesting, and though at least one person commented that he/she didn’t get “much of a racial connotation out of [Jolie’s] statement,” I would argue that Jolie makes two points: her second statement about Shiloh being a “blob” may be about the differences between adopted children and biological children—but Shiloh’s blobbiness won’t last too long, so this isn’t even a critical point. Her first statement, however, is very revealing and implicitly has a racial context. Continue reading
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Tagged adoption, biracial, caucasian, international adoption, mixed-race, multiracial, parenting, transracial adoption, white, white-privilege
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Reflection
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey A couple weeks ago, I presented two trainings for MN-ASAP (Minnesota Adoption Support and Preservation) in southern Minnesota, and on the way home, I happened upon the song … Continue reading
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Tagged adoption, international adoption, parenting, transracial adoption
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Careful the things we say – and don’t say
by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Ji In How do you say to a child in the night, ‘Nothing’s all black, but then nothing’s all white’? How do you say it will all be all right, When you know that it mightn’t … Continue reading
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Tagged Asian, asian american, education, international adoption, parenting, race, racial-slurs, racism, school, teachers, teasing, transracial adoption
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On adoption and race
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist, Karen Walrond, originally published at Chookooloonks Back in August, a commenter asked what I thought of this article. It was written by a Lisa Lerner, a Jewish-American woman who adopted transracially from India, and who, as … Continue reading
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Tagged colorism, international adoption, parenting, phenotype, racism, skintone, transracial adoption
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Jealousy
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim Everytime I hear about an adoptee who has reunited with their families, the green-eyed monster makes a visit. I have witnessed three reunions and have had many more friends reunite with their bio … Continue reading
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Tagged Asian, asian american, columnist, international adoption, korean, transracial adoption
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Ask ARP: How to handle racially or culturally insensitive teachers?
Dear Anti-Racist Parent,
I am an adoptive parent of two school age children living in the downstate region of New York State. One of my major concerns has been education and the lack of accurate information presented in our history/social studies classes. I think that teachers, even those with the best intentions, may have unrecognized bias in how social studies is taught.
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Tagged Asian, asian american, ask-anti-racist-parent, classroom, education, international adoption, parenting, school, teachers, transracial adoption
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Ask ARP: How to instill pride in race and heritage for adopted son?
Dear Anti-Racist Parent,
We are soon to be a multicultural family and I am from the belief that every culture has a rich heritage to be embraced. Our son is coming from China and I have not been content with the way some of my peers have incorporated their child’s culture into their everyday lives. I am looking for ways to give my son a positive self image about who he is as a whole but I don’t know how. Maybe you folks can help.
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Tagged Asian, asian american, ask-anti-racist-parent, culture, international adoption, parenting, transracial adoption
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