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Is it ok for parents to adopt transracially to solve their racial hangups?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove Wendi Muse recently pointed me to a blog post at Upside-Down Adoption about televangelist Rev. Creflo Dollar. Dollar and his wife are African-American but chose to adopt a white child when they first got engaged. Here’s … Continue reading

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Columnist intro: Paula

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Paula It is an honor to participate in the dialogue here at Anti-Racist Parent as a columnist. As a Korean adoptee of white parents who is married to a white man with two children – including … Continue reading

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10 Do’s and Don’ts for transracially adoptive parents

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Michelle Myers Like everyone else who grew up in the 70′s and 80′s, I loved watching “Different Strokes.” Of course, I was enamored with the show mainly because of Gary Coleman and waited with anticipation every … Continue reading

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Response to a Transracially Adopting Mother

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Natasha Sky I recently met someone friends have been trying to hook me up with for weeks; her family is planning to adopt. She had heard about me, and I must admit I was excited to … Continue reading

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In eight days

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey . . . I will be on a plane to South Korea. I am embarking on my third trip to Korea since 2000 (also the third trip to … Continue reading

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The Subtle Choice of Words and Their Not So Subtle Messages

by guest contributor Paula O’Loughlin, originally published at Heart, Mind and Seoul A celebrity prospective adoptive parent was recently quoted as saying, “Of course I want to have kids. I want to have my own kids, but also adopt.” Several … Continue reading

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Adoption Poster Child™

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey They sat on the cream and floral plushy sofa and matching loveseat. Others pulled out the dining room chairs into the room, making a circle with chairs and … Continue reading

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Why do we expect adoptees to be grateful?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid, originally published at Third Mom The concept that my children should be grateful to my husband and me for having adopted them has always been offensive to me. And if it’s offensive to me, … Continue reading

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Miss M goes to China

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Amber Before we traveled to China to adopt our younger daughter, I expected that a white mom carrying an obviously Asian baby would attract a lot of attention from the locals. In the city where we … Continue reading

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ColorsNW video on transracial adoption

by Carmen Van Kerckhove ColorsNW magazine, based out of Seattle, has recently started a video podcast. Here is a video they made on the subject of transracial adoption (hat tip to Jae Ran). It features, among other folks, Sarah Kim … Continue reading

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My response to the Rachel’s Tavern commenter

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey Earlier this week, Rachel from Rachel’s Tavern shared with me a comment left on her blog in response to a post about the U.S.’s decision to end working … Continue reading

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Should adoptive parents change their children’s names?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Dawn Friedman I was stuck on what to write this week but Carmen shared a list of some of the keywords people use to find their way here and there was one that stuck out to … Continue reading

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by Anti-Racist Parent special correspondent Colin Bowden The blindfold of “colorblind” Pt.1 – Ethnically Incorrect Daughter “As I’ve mentioned many times before, my family practiced a kind of colorblindness when it came to me. I guess they figured if they … Continue reading

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by Anti-Racist Parent special correspondent Colin Bowden Biting my tongue: Weighing pros and cons of reacting to insensitivity – Kimchi Mamas When is it right to act against insensitive and offensive comments? When is it wrong? Mama Nabi confronts this … Continue reading

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An examination of privilege. A question of responsibility.

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Michelle Myers

I know I haven’t been able to keep up with my posts as much as I’ve liked over the last month, but I’ve been reading recent posts with great interest. In particular, Dawn Friedman’s post calling out anti-racist white parents of white children struck a particular chord, as it did with many people. I also found Carmen’s post about recent comments Angelina Jolie made in an interview interesting, and though at least one person commented that he/she didn’t get “much of a racial connotation out of [Jolie’s] statement,” I would argue that Jolie makes two points: her second statement about Shiloh being a “blob” may be about the differences between adopted children and biological children—but Shiloh’s blobbiness won’t last too long, so this isn’t even a critical point. Her first statement, however, is very revealing and implicitly has a racial context. Continue reading

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Reflection

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey A couple weeks ago, I presented two trainings for MN-ASAP (Minnesota Adoption Support and Preservation) in southern Minnesota, and on the way home, I happened upon the song … Continue reading

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Careful the things we say – and don’t say

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Ji In How do you say to a child in the night, ‘Nothing’s all black, but then nothing’s all white’? How do you say it will all be all right, When you know that it mightn’t … Continue reading

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On adoption and race

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist, Karen Walrond, originally published at Chookooloonks Back in August, a commenter asked what I thought of this article. It was written by a Lisa Lerner, a Jewish-American woman who adopted transracially from India, and who, as … Continue reading

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Jealousy

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim Everytime I hear about an adoptee who has reunited with their families, the green-eyed monster makes a visit. I have witnessed three reunions and have had many more friends reunite with their bio … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: How to handle racially or culturally insensitive teachers?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent,

ask anti-racist parentI am an adoptive parent of two school age children living in the downstate region of New York State. One of my major concerns has been education and the lack of accurate information presented in our history/social studies classes. I think that teachers, even those with the best intentions, may have unrecognized bias in how social studies is taught.

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