Tag Archives: parenting

Ask ARP: What’s the best neighborhood for a transracial family?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, My American family is transracial: my husband and I are white, and our kids, who were adopted from Ethiopia, are black. We are now living in Egypt, but we always think about where we’d like to live … Continue reading

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Not black enough

by guest contributor Tami Winfrey Harris A couple of months ago, I asked my stepdaughter about a young, black student at her school. “She’s okay. You know she talks like a white girl. At first I thought she was weird,” … Continue reading

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Is adoption the antithesis to oppression?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove If you haven’t already, do check out this somewhat controversial article in the latest issue of Mother Jones magazine about international adoption: Did I Steal My Daughter? The Tribulations of Global Adoption (hat tip to Jae … Continue reading

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Who Belongs?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Natasha Sky My son was writing in his workbook the other day. We’re homeschooling in the eclectic-semi-unschooling-style; the workbooks have been around for over a year–my kids think they’re fun. The books are actually a great … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: What should I do about nursery rhymes with a racist past?

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, I am a Mom of two girls and I live in Eastern Canada. I am looking for some advice about the children’s rhyme “Eeny, meeny, miny, moe, Catch a tiger by the toe”. Last week, on the … Continue reading

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This is where we live.

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Jason Sperber This is where we live. A couple weeks ago, my wife and I took our almost-three-year-old daughter to her first county fair. She got to eat French fries and funnel cake, look at cows, … Continue reading

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Some of My Best Friends (and Family) Are Racists

by guest contributor Rachel Sullivan, originally published at Rachel’s Tavern I remember an argument I had with my mother a few years back. I had brought my boyfriend, a black man, who I had been dating for 4 years, to … Continue reading

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Having a multicultural doll ghetto is not enough

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Dawn Friedman Recently I wrote on my blog about trying to find an African American Polly Pocket for my 3-year old daughter. My efforts were only slightly successful – I did find a brown-skinned Polly, kind … Continue reading

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Parent Panic Over Hispanic Heritage Month

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Maegan “la Mala” Ortiz Maybe it’s because I’m a conscious Latina parent with a background in activism. Maybe it’s because I hate and don’t identify with the term Hispanic. Whatever the reason, I don’t celebrate or … Continue reading

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11 tips for white parents with adopted children of color

by Carmen Van Kerckhove I just spotted this excellent list of tips for white parents with adopted children of color over on Harlow’s Monkey. It’s written by Sun Yung Shin in the Summer 2007 issue of MN ASAP Family Voices … Continue reading

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Inviting me to the party

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey This past Friday was our school’s annual Fall Picnic. As you may recall, last spring I wrote about being snubbed from a Mom’s Night Out event in which … Continue reading

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When parents disrupt or dissolve an adoption

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Jae Ran Kim, originally published at Harlow’s Monkey Okay, I’m going to start off being blunt. When a person adopts a child and then disrupts or dissolves that adoption, they are re-traumatizing the child and they … Continue reading

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Ask ARP: What should I do about my daughter thinking that “white babies are better?”

Dear Anti-Racist Parent, First, thank you for the resources you provide and facilitate the provision of – I have very much appreciated reading the columnists and discussions on your site. Second, I’m very much hoping you and those who frequent … Continue reading

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Columnist Intro: Maegan

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Maegan “la Mala” Ortiz My parents, who came to New York City from Puerto Rico as teenagers, were not anti-racists. How else to explain how I, their first born, was named after the priest seducing white … Continue reading

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Is it ok for parents to adopt transracially to solve their racial hangups?

by Carmen Van Kerckhove Wendi Muse recently pointed me to a blog post at Upside-Down Adoption about televangelist Rev. Creflo Dollar. Dollar and his wife are African-American but chose to adopt a white child when they first got engaged. Here’s … Continue reading

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How do parents come together to talk about race and education?

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Vera L During this past school year, the idea of beginning a group for parents of African American students at my sons’ elementary school positioned itself in the forefront of my mind. There is already a … Continue reading

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The parenting blogosphere’s lack of diversity

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Jason Sperber Last week, the parentblogosphere (or at least the neighborhood I frequent) was buzzing, post-BlogHer, with HKMIC (that’s Head Kimchi Mama In Charge) CityMama/Stefania Pomponi Butler’s smackdown on clueless PR flacks trying to get mombloggers … Continue reading

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Columnist intro: Paula

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Paula It is an honor to participate in the dialogue here at Anti-Racist Parent as a columnist. As a Korean adoptee of white parents who is married to a white man with two children – including … Continue reading

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10 Do’s and Don’ts for transracially adoptive parents

by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Michelle Myers Like everyone else who grew up in the 70′s and 80′s, I loved watching “Different Strokes.” Of course, I was enamored with the show mainly because of Gary Coleman and waited with anticipation every … Continue reading

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When intelligence is seen as “acting white”

by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Tiffany Pridgen I spend a lot of time being the only black person in a group. I’m used to it — that’s the way it’s always been and it’s rare that I ever feel uncomfortable about … Continue reading

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